Defining Me (& You)

I am…






…truth speaker

…pushing-the-lines joke teller

…animal lover

…get-it-done task-doer







…don’t think before I speaker (this is a real problem, so I had to put it down twice)

…high-standard of excellence holder



…health-conscious choice maker


What defines me?  Who or what am I?  This list could go on and on.  It is filled with some important roles, some positive qualities, and some not-so-positive qualities.

A few days ago, I was with a group of students that I have the privilege to talk about the Bible with once a week (check out  Currently, we are reading the four Gospels and discussing the Life of Christ, and in our overview of the Book of John it came up that he refers to himself as “the disciple that Jesus loved.”

Seems kinda arrogant.

I opened my mouth to comment, and something I had never thought of, much less ever taught before, came out of my mouth.

“Think about it.  Of all the things John could have defined himself as, he choose to define himself simply as the one that Jesus loved.  In response to the deepest questions of humankind, ‘Who am I? What am I? Why am I?’ John answered, I am the follower that Jesus loved.”

What a beautiful, powerful and profound answer to the defining questions of life.  “I am the one that Jesus loves.”  And so are you.  We are each the ones that are deeply, sweetly, perfectly, and strongly loved.  We are all the ones that are cherished and held by the transformational Ever & Always love of God.

Life has many demands.  We are each called on to fill many roles.  There will always be judgers.  We will each be tempted to define ourselves by what we do, our strengths and weaknesses, our place in this world.  In the midst of all that, I vote we stop and learn a little something from John.

The most important thing about each one of us (yes, even the co-worker that drives you nuts) is that we are all the ones that Jesus loves.

The next time life demands a definition, let’s all say:  “I am the one, he is the one, she is the one, the one that Jesus loves.”

PS. If you want to know more about this Ever & Always love of God, one place to start your journey is at the Original Conference.  Join us on April 10-12 (next week!) at Rockford First.  Register at  See you there!