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Being Jack’s mom

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Jack –

Momma loves you.  I…I am without many words.  Someday you will know what a big deal that is, and that it signifies when something is so so so deep that it is hard for me to express.  I don’t know how to put into words what it means to me to be your mom.  Yesterday, you had fallen asleep on my shoulder.  Something startled you–a bad dream perhaps, or some discomfort.  All I could do was comfort you.  You are going to have bad dreams.  You are going to be uncomfortable, in pain even, at times.  Sometimes, I will be able to take action and fix the problem.  More often, life’s troubles aren’t “fixable” like that.  Yesterday I said these words to you.  Today, I write them down so you can read them someday.  Hopefully by the time you read them, you will know them to be true because of how I have loved you.  

“Momma is here.  I can’t promise to be able to fix everything, but I do promise to be here.  To love you.  To be with you in it, whatever it is.”

Welcome to the adventure my boy.  Come what may, we are in it together.  

Momma loves you.

Jack was born on July 9th in Champaign-Urbana.  Aaron and I were able to be present at his birth, which was an incredible gift from his birth parents, whom we think are pretty stinking incredible.  The hospital staff was amazed at the relationship we all have with each other.  We all agree that this is something special.

To each person who has prayed, given, supported, rejoiced and gone on this journey with us, we say thank you.  I hope each one of you has the chance to look into Jack’s eyes someday; he is, well, wonderful.  And you are part of that.

Forever grateful –

Erin, Aaron & Jack

(and Sherpa…but she is only a little grateful)



Adoption Update – Jack is Home!

Jack – You were born on Tuesday at 7:42am!  You weighed 6.5 lbs and were 20 inches long.  You’ve been a big eater, and so far you enjoy being awake and lively between midnight and 5am.  You are our pride and joy, and we are so thankful that we get to be your mom and dad…

Our little boy, Jack North Campbell is finally here.  After much prayer, paperwork, hope, faith, relationship, and support this little boy came home to Rockford yesterday.  We’re not sleeping too much yet, so this will not be an extensive post… but there is a lot of story to be told in the future.  Suffice to say Jack has some of the bravest people that we have ever met as birth parents, and we already count them as part of the family!

This is the 4th day in the adventures of Cap’n Jack Campbell, and there will be many, many more to come.  Thank you for celebrating with us!

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Adoption Update #6

Baby –

 

Your stroller is all put together in the dining room, waiting to take you on adventures (or just to the grocery store…which I hear will be an adventure for me!)  Your bassinet is in our bedroom, waiting for sweet dreams and there is a rocker in the nursery ready for midnight feedings and lullabies.  You already have a bookshelf that is filling up with favorite books and the timeless tales that help us all navigate this thing called life.  It is no accident that you will come to your father and I.  We know it will be hard sometimes, but we will all be able to find peace in this truth – we belong to each other.  Our hearts are full of excitement as we wait for your arrival, knowing that someday soon you will fill our arms!  I cannot wait to tell you story after story about the love, prayers, support and gifts you have received from the ones that will be part of your extended family.  You are already loved deeply by many!  

 

Kiss you soon – 

 

Mom

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What a journey this has been–I wish I could hug each and every one of you that have taken it with us.  We have needed, and are grateful for, your support.  Thank you.  Thank you.  Thank you!

 

The Adopt-O-Meter keeps creeping towards “Paid In Full!”  Every few days as another check arrives in the mail, or someone gives online, Aaron and I just stand in the kitchen and shake our heads in amazement.  We have the best friends and family!  This little one is about to be adopted into the most amazing extended family!  I have been laughing lately as I imagine Baby C looking up at me with a furrowed brow and asking, “Who, exactly, am I related to?”  My reply is going to be “ALL OF US!”  We really are all one big family, bonded together with the love that only comes from God.

 

We don’t have an exact timeline of when Baby C is going to arrive, so life right now feels like the stop at the top of the big drop on a roller coaster.  The last year of fund-raising, the home study, back ground checks, nursery preparations, etc. has felt like the slow climb to the top of the big drop, and now we are sitting there waiting for the real ride of our lives to begin!  We have had a few situations with birth families come up, but nothing that has solidified as of yet.  We are trusting God for the right match–He has a little one that He wants us to nurture and raise up.

 

I would not consider myself to be wise, but I have learned the hard way to allow things to unfold in God’s timing–He really does know best & we are content to wait for His will to be realized.

 

As we have taken this journey, my eyes have been opened to the need for the church to be praying for birth moms.  These women have an incredibly weighty decision to make.  The world has offered them a “solution” and it takes great courage to turn that down and decide to either raise their child or release their child.  Please add these women to your prayer list.  I would like to see Christ-followers all across the nation and around the world taking a larger roll in child welfare.  There IS something you can do!  Foster, adopt, support local groups through donations and spreading awareness, etc.   Let’s step up and take care of the single mothers & children that desperately need the church to be the church in our communities!

Adoption Update #5

Baby – 

I can’t wait to tell you the story of how many people came together to bring you home.  You are so loved already!  I pray that wherever you are today–in your birth mother’s womb, or still with God waiting for the day of your conception–you would be surrounded by our prayers.  We can’t wait to hold you in our arms.  Sweet dreams, wherever you are.  

 

It has been a little while since we have sent out an update.  The reason for that is…there isn’t much new news!  On a recent visit with our case worker, we were told that the number of birth families looking for adoptive families has gone down compared to this same time last year.  Immediately my mind followed that up with a question:  Does that mean the number of abortions are up?  I don’t know the answer to that…but I do know that we are called to pray and provide for ALL little ones.  Please join us!

You all are continuing to completely humble us with your generosity!  The Baby Fund is growing!  At this point, we have approximately $6,000.00 left to raise, and that number no longer seems daunting, thanks to your friendship and support.  God bless you!

I want to close by sharing a wonderful message that an old and dear friend wrote to our little one.  The front of the card reads:  “Never Ever Stop Dreaming Big Crazy Dreams.”

Inside was a beyond-sweet message to Aaron and I, and then this message to Baby C:

 

To the little one – 

You have been hoped for, prayed for, cried for, sacrificed for and deeply loved.  May you find great satisfaction and overwhelming joy in your life, knowing that God had, and has, the perfect plan for you.  He hand-picked your parents just for you, knowing you would be the perfect fit for them.  May God bless you all the days of your life with health, protection, assurance of love and grace, discipline, clear direction, a listening ear, favor, Kingdom eyes, and incredible friendships.

Much love!

 

 

Thank you friend.  Your prayers and support mean the world.  LOVE YOU!  Your card will be lovingly tucked into the box of such cards that I will someday pull out to show this little one, when they need an extra reminder that they are valuable.  That will be a special day.

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Adoption Update #4

Baby – 

Someday, when you are feeling low, I am going to pull out a special box and look through its contents with you.  The box will hold each one of the cards that people have sent along with donations to help us with the finances needed to bring you home.  Everyone of these people loved you before they even met you, and by the time we read these cards they will love you even more.  I know you will have questions; that is ok.  Ask whatever questions you have, don’t hold back.  Your Father and I will be here for you through every twist and turn of this journey.  My prayer is that knowing how much we were all looking forward to you will help you believe how valuable and wanted you are.  I can’t wait to meet you; you are already my treasure and my sunshine.   

 

This past Sunday, some dear friends of ours, Rand and Mariene Oman, held an open house in support of the adoption process.  Here is the invite:

 

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If you were not able to be there, or live too far away to make it, you can still be part of bringing Baby C home!  Please don’t feel any pressure to give!  We just want to make the opportunity available.  Our “Adopt-O-Meter” is looking good, thanks to the incredible generosity of so many.  Aaron and I are speechless.  This morning (Valentine’s Day morning) we took a minute to sit in the nursery and be thankful.  Thank you.  Happy Valentine’s Day to all!  We love you all so much.

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Adoption Update # 3

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Baby – we started painting your room last night. The little rocker in your room used to belong to me; it used to be avocado green, which was so hip in the 70‘s. Your dad painted it yellow for you. The walls are a cozy gray and one is filled with chevrons – thank your dad for that! We can’t wait to rock you to sleep, tell you stories, make shadow puppets with the night light, and fill your heart with truth about God in this room. We have so many good things to tell you about Him. We are praying for you everyday. You will know that this is home the minute we take you into our arms.

Aaron and I are doing all we can to get ready for the phone call we are waiting for–that a family has chosen us! That call could come any time, so we are busy getting the basics together and concentrating on the fundraising. $22,000 is a lot of money to us! We have already saved and payed close to $6,000, so only $16,000 to go! God knows. I really don’t know how people who don’t submit their lives to God’s guidance live…without my trust in His provision, His wisdom, and His timing, I would be a total mess!

Aaron put up five additional teachings of mine in the store portion of our website. We invite you to check them out!

Adoption Update # 2

Baby – 

2013 may very well be your year!  We are praying for you.  We pray that as you form and develop, you would sense our prayers and come to know our voices, our hearts, our love…so that when you are placed in our arms it will be home.  Grow strong and be safe.  We love you.  

Our profile is done!  Aaron is going to put it here some way so that you can take a look at it…please don’t think we think we are all that!  It was very odd to make a book filled with words and pictures about ourselves, but we were motivated by thinking of the birth family who will be looking at it and trying so desperately to read between the lines and connect with a family that will raise their beloved child.  We are humbled by the powerful kind of love that would carry a child to term and look to release them to another family who is at a place where they can provide in a different way for this cherished child.  That takes wisdom, courage and humility.  Birth family – we so respect you.  We pray often that we will also have the wisdom, courage, and humility it will take to raise this cherished child.  I know God will help us all.

View the Profile here (this may take a moment – it’s a 10mb file):

Campbell’s Adoption Profile

Adoption Update # 1

Baby – I can’t wait to share Christmas with you.  To celebrate with you & inspire/anchor your belief in the One and Only God.  He works in majestic and mysterious ways…all He does is wonderful.  I hope to draw freshness from your child-like faith, and offer you wisdom in return.  Your father and I will love loving you. 


 

Yesterday was a big day!  We received word that our adoption license has been approved!  This means that the State of IL has found us fit to be adoptive parents–special thanks to all who sent in references, etc.  We appreciate your time and we know that all the paperwork is tedious!

The next step is for us to put the finishing touches on what is called our “profile,” which is basically a mini-magazine all about us.  Honestly, I feel bad for the other couples who don’t have a graphic designer in the family 🙂  Aaron has done an amazing job (he is so talented).  He said it has been a more difficult project because of the personal nature…I think it is just because he gets lost in looking at gorgeous pictures of me…LOL.  When it is finished, we will put it up here for you all to take a look at.  It really is a strange thing to create a document that is all about you!

Once our profile is submitted, it goes “live.”   This means that our agency can then share it with birth families who are interested in placing a child with adoptive parents.  We are open to as open of an adoption as the birth family wants–meaning, we will share correspondence back and forth, meet up for “play dates” and special events if they would like, and basically stay connected.  Aaron and I see ourselves as partnering with the birth family to do all that we can to raise a wonderful child.

There are 25 families with our agency right now (they keep it to this number so that no one family is waiting too long).  They hope to keep the entire process (from the home study to the child placement) to at or around two years.  We are already at the 6 month mark.  When a birth family connects with the agency, the maternity worker will interview them, and then select a few profiles that he or she thinks might be good matches.  We will then get a call informing us about the birth family and say yes or no to sharing our profile.  If we say yes, then our profile is given to the family to look over.  If they select us, then it is just a matter of time (depending on how far along the mother is) before our little one comes home!

Our goals at this point:

One – and this is a HUGE one…save up/raise the $18,000 that this will cost.  That is the agency fee and covers all case worker involvement, processing fees, medical fees, and follow-up counseling/care for the birth family and for us.  We have already come up with $4,000 to pay for everything up to this point (mainly the home study and license).  Glad we serve a generous God!

Two – get our nursery ready!  Sometimes a birth family chooses adoption at the hospital!   That means we could get a call and bring our little one home with only a day or two notice.  So we need to get the basics ready.

And those are enough goals for now.  Whew.


 

Sorry for the long blog…but now that we are all in the know about the process, shorter updates will do!